Monday, July 4, 2011

Relay for Life- Laurel, Nebraska















Happy Birthday, Sharon!

I didn't know much about the Relay for Life (http://www.relayforlife.org/relay/) until this year, and, in hindsight, I don't know how that is possible. Cancer has always been a part of my life for as long as I can remember. So many beautiful people in my life have been affected by it; therefore, it has affected me. When my sister-in-law Sharon was diagnosed with stage IV lymphoma, enough was enough. Derrick wanted there to be a Relay for Life team for the church, and boy, was there an enthusiastic response! We had survivors in our own congregation who wanted to lead the team’s efforts to raise money for cancer research and help to bring about more birthdays. Each team member had someone they were walking to honor. The Luther Leaguers were psyched to be contributing members. When a classmate was diagnosed with Cancer in the spring, this hit even closer to home for all of them. In the end, we raised nearly $2,000.00 for the cause; I think all of us learned so much.

We heard many stories about heroic people, and I couldn’t hold back the tears when the survivors took a victory lap around the track, followed by the caregivers and then all of the participants. So many people were involved in this effort. Our church team earned money throughout the year from Lenten church suppers, the Easter Sonrise breakfast, selling luminaries and other donations. Our Boy Scout Troop 208 and the Laurel Cub Scouts had a big part to play in the Relay for Life. The Scouts, under the direction of the Relay for Life Leaders, helped to set up all of the luminaries that honor cancer survivors and victims and then participated in the flag ceremony during the opening ceremonies. The Leaders of the Relay for Life, not only organized this tremendous event, but they ran all of the various activities throughout the night. In addition to walking, there were games like Minute to Win It challenges and talent show competitions (congratulations, Hannah), plus there was a nonstop kickball game, church services and lots of delicious food prepared by more volunteers and many sponsors. This was a life changing event for me.

My sister-in-law Sharon is winning her battle; she is one of the strongest people I have ever known. As if overcoming stage IV lymphoma is not enough, she has started training for the Danskin Corp triathlon to end cancer. She says she was inspired by our Relay for Life team. We have much to be thankful for, and come November, we have a very special birthday to celebrate! Happy Birthday, Sharon.


Summer 2011- Minneapolis, Minnesota





Back in the Swing of Blogging

Once again, the 4th of July is the magical date that witnesses me opening my blog page for the summer. During the first half of the summer, it seems my access to the internet is always limited, and sometimes I wonder if that is by divine plan. This morning as I completed my daily readings from the Word Among Us, I reflected on how we all need to unplug from things every now and then. For the first part of this summer, as I (and many of our family and friends) welcomed my family from Australia, I was able to do just that, unplug from the world in order to connect with my cousin Asa and his family. Now, I feel ready to re-engage to love more and serve better! I hope that this Summer’s virtual field trip may offer you some of the same!

The first adventure this summer, as soon as my classroom was cleaned out that is, was to hit the road for Minnesota. We had two major segments to our Minnesota visit. The first part of the visit was a return to The Mayo Clinic to update Ian’s MRIs on his knees, see Dr. Stans (Pediatric Orthopedic Surgeon) for the final time and transition to Dr. Stuart (Adult Orthopedic Surgeon). The second part of our visit was Derrick’s graduation from Luther Seminary with his Doctorate. After spending the morning getting his knees photographed from every angle possible, Ian was ready to hear some good news. The good news was and is that the surgeons continue to say no symptoms, no surgery. Although Ian's deficient meniscus leaves his knees in a bone on bone situation, he does not experience any pain, popping, locking or swelling. The bad news is that the knee situation is still dire, but with an interesting twist. When Dr. Stans was showing us the MRIs that had been taken earlier in the day, he showed us where Ian’s knees have attempted to heal themselves, in a way. If I understood Dr. Stans correctly, scar tissue has developed in the place where the meniscus is deficient and is serving as a buffer in those places. Wow! Immediately, I was struck by the fact that so much about life can be like this, can’t it? I think that all of us were breathing a little easier after we walked out of the Mayo Clinic that day.

Speaking of buffers, as part of his graduation present, we had ordered some Twins (http://minnesota.twins.mlb.com/index.jsp?c_id=min) tickets for Derrick. Now, some of you reading this may remember what happened the last time I tried to take Derrick to a Twins baseball game… that’s right the bridge collapsed (http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/20079534/ns/us_news-life/t/thought-dead-minneapolis-bridge-collapses/). Tragically, several people lost their lives and the Twin Cities were paralyzed by the devastation. We were paralyzed by the enormity of what could have happened as we counted our blessings. That was back in 2007 and now it was 2011 already. It was a beautiful night for a baseball game, and even as I was preparing for the arrival of my Australian cousins that next week, I was struck by this American pastime I truly adore. I felt like we were the Twins’ lucky charms that night. They had been on a losing streak, but it was broken that night in overtime. Another ironic twist about attending the Twins game was the fact that not only was my cousin Asa a twin, our fathers were twin brothers as well. I was surrounded by Twin imagery too, but what did it mean?

Before we knew it, Sunday was here and it was time for graduation at Central Lutheran church (http://www.centralmpls.org/our-church/history.php) in Minneapolis. That morning, before anyone was awake, Derrick and I got up and walked around the City. More signs abounded. As we turned a corner, I was amazed to see that we were standing in front of St. Thomas (http://www.stthomas.edu/). Wow! I knew that all of my beloved Cedar students who went on to study at St. Thomas were already immersed in their Totus Tuus (http://www.totustuus.com/) training for the summer and wouldn’t be around, but I was happy to see the buildings where they spend so much of their time and attention. The contrasts between our lives at Cedar in Hartington and the lives they must be living here now shocked me. This was THE inner city. I saw signs of this each time I turned around, even at the Church. Truly they have been called here to learn and serve. As had we, when we left Gettysburg, and I wondered what other components to my mission might lie just around the corner.

Although the day was a little rainy, the afternoon of graduation the weather began to clear as we made our way from the hotel, across four (or was it six) lanes of traffic. Derrick was surprised to see that, in addition to his Mom and Dad who flew in for the occasion, our friends the Patents and the Sellons came up all the way from Randolph in honor of this special day. The Luther Seminary (http://www.luthersem.edu/) graduation was filled with pomp and circumstance as music resonated throughout this breathtaking venue. In the booming voices of the speakers, in the hallowed music from the organ and the voices and in the joy which beamed on every face, the Holy Spirit permeated every moment. Dr. Koester challenged each person in the audience to bravely serve out his calling even when we question our own abilities to do so. Our trip to Minnesota reinforced our family mission that we officially embarked upon on in 2002, but with Faith we continue to move forward... Although we never could have imagined being where we are, we believe that we are where we are supposed to be!


Wednesday, September 1, 2010

Modern Medicine and Miracles



Modern Medicine and Miracles- We made our way to the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, MN to meet with some Orthopaedic Surgeons about Ian's knees. We were on pins and needles, but no sooner had we passed into Minnesota than a beautiful rainbow greeted us and gave us hope. We believe in miracles, and we have been waiting to claim one for quite some time.

By the end of the visit, Ian said that he believes that we received the second best prognosis he could have hoped for. The team were amazed that Ian's knees were so "rock solid" on the outside given what is happening on the inside. (They did a lot of head shaking with amazed looks on their faces.) They were further amazed that Ian denies feeling any pain, popping or locking. There is no swelling whatsoever. His knee alignment is perfect. They did not believe it. We do ....because we know that we serve an amazing God.

They complimented the previous care provide by our beloved Dr. Moran, but the MRIs and xrays haven't changed. Missing meniscus, wearing bone and other issues... they are all things that still need to be addressed. With that being said, they said that when Ian develops any pain, trauma or swelling, we need to return to Mayo immediately. Until then, we pray and they monitor. They said that even the meniscal transplants are not going to be a long term solution for Ian, but that we need to keep him moving forward.

God is good. It is humbling how sitting in a hospital waiting room for three hours can help to take my mind off my own problems. As we sat in the inspiring Pediatric orthopedic waiting room, we saw so many sick or injured children. They were the brave ones, with their brilliant smiles on their faces. It reminded me how much need there is in the world. Sometimes, I get so caught up in my own little world that I lose sight of the bigger picture. Thank God there are so many visionaries who fund incredible institutions like the Mayo Clinic. The waiting room was more like walking through a zoo or museum than a hospital waiting room. There were interactive exhibits at every turn and then... a visit from our angel.

There was a gentleman, a hospital volunteer walking around the waiting room giving away free books to the children. Even though Ian was like a giant in the waiting room, the book man came over to us anyway. After visiting with us awhile, he turned to walk away and return to the small children who were always coming and going. He looked at us and said, "I hope you find what you came here looking for." Wow... what a powerful prayer to us all. It was almost like he knew, we came looking for a miracle. Now, I am sure he didn't just disappear at this point. I mean, honestly, I got distracted by Toy Story. My attention was drawn away when Buzz was kidnapped by Syd, but when I went to locate the bookman again, he was no where to be seen.

Thank you for all of your prayers.

Tuesday, August 10, 2010

Mrs. Custeau


Mrs. Custeau


When I was growing up, I practically lived at my best friend Michelle's house. When her Mom died this July 2010, I thought about all of those times. I had so many great memories there. I remember sitting in their kitchen on Sunset Avenue, convening around that table and talking about all of life's mysteries: college, boys in general, but specifically those handsome brothers who lived across the street from the Custeaus, and, of course, faith. This family was so different from my family, but I loved everything about being there: their passionate debates, their humorous anecdotes from Dad Custeau's life on the road as a fertilizer salesman, their exotic home cooking and all that they could do. Dad Custeau and Michelle's brothers, my brothers by adoption, Chuck and Tom had their heads under the hoods of their various vehicles (Old Blue, The General...) every weekend when I was there. I am so blessed to have this time with this wonderful family because they too helped to shape me and my perceptions of life. I discovered that I wanted to always learn more about the things I didn't know. I am sure that I bragged to my surrogate family once or twice after I had taken a Continuing Education course on how to do your own tune-ups and had completed my first tune-up. I could sling car lingo with the best of them... well, for that month anyway.

They each had their own gifts and talented they were. Mom Custeau, who would giggle around with us for hours, was the musical one in the family, I think. She was a gifted pianist, and their home was always filled with music. They must have been appalled when I came into their lives... not only can I not sing on key, I am hopeless when it comes to singing the rights words to songs. Yikes! Later, this infectious musical habit became a permanent part of my daily routines whether I am at home or in a car. I am rarely without music. And animals... I was in love with their furry family members. When I moved to Essex in 1978, I was a poor allergic, whimpy thing. By the time I graduated high school, I had fully built up an immunity to animal dander by living at the Custeaus so much. Now, my own family has had and will continue to have many furry friends in our future. Yes, they even sleep in bed with us!

This connection was also truly a learning experience for me when Michelle and I used to study together in high school. I was used to doing my work in silence, sitting at the dining room table and having all of my study items organized out in front of me. My muse Michelle, on the other hand, would study while lying across her bed with the music booming, feet swinging constantly as she would jump up, change the music and sample new songs for me. That was distracting enough while trying to study at Michelle's house. Trying to keep track of those handsome neighbors' comings and goings was even more of a distraction.


Life is like that isn't it. We come in contact with people who leave impressions on us; they leave a little bit of themselves with us, whether we recognize it at the time or not. It really does take a village to raise a child. I only wished I had thanked my villagers more at the time.

I love and will miss you, Mom Custeau. Thank you for everything you have done for me through the years. Thank you for giving me the best friend anyone could have ever asked for. Her compassion, her intelligence, her intuitiveness and even her creepy Vezina premonitions have enriched my life in more ways that I could have ever hoped for. Mom Custeau, may you rest in God's eternal peace!

Colin Fallon: The Graduation Party Tour Finale


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The day of Colin's last High School Graduation Party dawned brightly and beautifully. The party was at the beach pavilion, so we carted everything down there. When we started to set up, there was a squirrel/chipmunk who started hanging around... stalking us really. He was a nervy little booger. Racing up and down the beams of the pavilion, he made us chase him. Although this squirrel picture is from Google images, our chipmunk/squirrel had as much of an attitude. He did provide a lot of comic entertainment...I should try and download his video! He will never be the same after looking down the look the barrel of Mimi's cane!

As people started to arrive, there was so much to catch up. It had been a year since we had seen most everyone and, not only was our time in Vermont coming to an end, Colin's heading off to college signaled the end of an era. Through the years, this group of friends and family have gathered for his birthday and sacramental parties to support him through those rites of passage. Many people have come and some have gone, but this cohort has lifted him up to love and guide him. Those rites of passage were the scaffolding that led him here- Colin is all grown up now.

And Ian is right on his heels...



Thanks to everyone who made it such a special day for Colin! Thanks, Elaine for suggesting I take some pictures! I wish we all could have stayed just a little bit longer and maybe time would have stayed still ...

Stay
by Jackson Browne

Now the seats are all empty
Let the roadies take the stage
Pack it up and tear it down
They're the first to come and the last to leave
Working for that minimum wage
They'll set it up in another town
Tonight the people were so fine
They waited there in line
And when they got up on their feet,
They made the show, and that was sweet,
But I can hear the sound of slamming doors and folding chairs
and that's a sound they'll never know

Now roll them cases and lift them amps
and haul them truses up and get'um up them ramps
'Cause when it comes to moving me,
you know you guys are the champs
but when that last guitar's been packed away,
you know that I still want to play.
So just make sure you got it all set to go
before you come for my piano

But the band's on the bus,
and they're waiting to go.
We gotta drive all night
And do the show in Chicago... or Detroit.
I don't know, we do so many shows in a row.
And these towns all look the same.
we just pass the time in the hotel rooms
and wander around backstage.
Till those lights come up, and we hear that crowd,
and we remember why we came.

Now we got country and western on the bus,
R & B, we got disco in 8-tracks and cassettes in stereo
We've got rural scenes and magazines
And we've got truckers on CB
We got Richard Pryor on the video
We've got time to think of the ones we love
While the miles roll away
but the only time that seems too short is the time that we get to play
People you've got the power over what we do
You can sit there and wait
or you can pull us through.
Come along, sing this song
You know that you can't go wrong
'Cause when that mornin' sun comes beating down
you're gonna wake up in your town
But we'll be scheduled to appear
a thousand miles away from here

People stay just a little bit longer
We want to play -- just a little bit longer
Now the promoter don't mind
And the union don't mind
If we take a little time
And we leave it all behind and sing
One more song
Oh won’t you stay just a little bit longer
Please, please, please say you will
Say you will

Oh won’t you stay just a little bit longer
Oh please, please stay just a little bit more

Now the promoter don’t mind
And the roadies don’t mind
If we take a little time
And we leave this all behind and sing
One more song



Thy Kingdom Come...


Thy Kingdom Come

I have thought a lot about this phrase lately. When I think about it, I reflect on how people love and serve one another and truly make God's Kingdom come into the world. One of our quick side trips this summer was to New Jersey to visit our sister-in-law Sharon. Now the purpose of our trip was supposed to be so that we could show our love for her by helping her with a few projects around the house. Well, we were WRONG! Clearly it was a ruse. Once we got there, despite her ferocious chemotherapy treatments she was in the process of enduring, she wanted US to enjoy the Jersey shore and just be with her. Enjoy each others' company we did!

Our first stop was to do some kayaking... not just any kayaking you understand. Kayaking behind Bon Jovi's house... Okay... okay... this picture of the back of his house was from Google, we can't kayak and take pictures at the same time, but still how cool was that! We love Bon Jovi.. his music and his causes. Check out his/their website at bonjovi.com or his foundation website jonbonjovisoulfoundation.org/ In partnership with St. Joseph's Carpenter Society they have helped build/rebuild homes in Camden, New Jersey for working class folks. Loving and serving others... Thy will be done.

Our next stop was the boogie boarding beach. Now, since Sharon wasn't in any shape to boogie board, I had to do it for her. Here comes another word equation: Pam + boogie board = sand burns. Who knew sand could burn? Okay... probably all of you did except me. I did not see that big mammoth wave coming, but apparently there was a big bulls eye on my back! The wave picked me up and threw me up (threw up me?) on the beach. I am still finding sand weeks later. Laughed... I laughed so hard.

The most powerful part of our visit had to be dinner. We spent hours around the dinner table (as usual) and watched a magnificent storm sweep across the water. The bright lights of New York City vanished and reappeared as the tempest subsided. Sharon began talking about September 11, 2001 and how, when she and my brother-in-law Dana saw that the terrorists had attacked, they went down to the harbor. They grabbed first aid supplies and extra blankets. She said that when commuter boats started evacuating victims from New York City, the city of Atlantic Highlands had emergency procedures in place. Sharon was helping people around the decontamination chamber- being Christ's light in a dark, troubled time and tragic place. Even as Sharon told the story, there was a triumphant radiance in her eyes. All of these wounded and dazed people came together and got busy helping one another. And she was grateful. She was grateful that she could do something meaningful during this horrific tragedy to make a difference in the world.

I think that is exactly what The Lord's Prayer is all about, isn't it? It also reminds me of what my Word Among Us meditation said the other day- "Scripture tells us to 'serve one another through love' (Galatians 5:13), to 'strive for peace with everyone' (Hebrews 12:14), and to use our God-given gifts to take care of each other (1 Peter 4:10).

When I grow up, I want to be like my sister-in-law Sharon. Amen!